Some lovely words about Slacking on Pain

There have been some lovely words written about Slacking on Pain. I just wanted to draw you your attention to a couple of them that have been spotted recently.

Greek fanzine Gew Gaw found that

the "nudity" of this project is really exquisite. An album ideal for lonely audiences, especially when the darkness is ready to cover our thoughts!

REIDGRAVES Slacking On Pain @ New Gaw

Bliss/Aquamarine have always had nice things to say about The Contrast and describe SOP as " a well crafted art project" -

The poetry is grounded within gritty realism; the music varies between more melodic pieces, and those with a cinematic feel, much like incidental film music, with an on-edge angularity that builds up tension and accompanies well the unsettling lyrics of violence, homelessness, sickness, loneliness and loss.

David and Ron are very grateful for these and all reviews.

More information on Slacking on Pain can be found by clicking on the cover image below.

A note from the poet: Cancer Songs

A Note About Cancer Songs by Ron Graves

I’d had thirteen hours of surgery to remove a rectal tumour - and who knows what else, not me, I didn’t like to ask - and was curled into a foetal position on a special mattress made up of individual, air-filled cells that intelligently moulded to my body as I moved around. Well, I say, “I’d had thirteen hours of surgery,” but I had no such experience, because I was lulled into unconsciousness at 9am and reawakened at 10pm. I had nothing to do with what happened during the time I was suspended in a state of near non-existence but was confident I was safe in the hands of two wonderful surgeons and their teams along with a fine anaesthetist.

I spent the next couple of days in a surreal whirl. When my eyes were open I seemed to know where I was and imagined I was conversing fairly sensibly with those around me, but if I closed my eyes, even just to rest for a few minutes, I was carried off into a trippy place that was both delightful and frightening, a bit like a painting by Richard Dadd.

I’d been cajoled by some of the kids I saw as a psychotherapist in the Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service (CAMHS) to explore Minecraft and, as a result, I’d become a bit of a fan. I’m lying, I’d actually become a full-blown addict who couldn’t leave the damned thing alone. Prior to surgery I’d built towns, hamlets, cathedrals, solitary follies and grand railway networks (or so it seemed to me) and it was, perhaps, a form of cold Turkey that had me closing my eyes and finding myself caught up in a mad cycle of endless digging. This wasn’t like ordinary Minecraft digging, but went upwards, always upwards, and in an ever more frantic whirl of activity until I hit the surface and somehow had to start all over again. It felt dizzying and exhausting to the point that I almost feared going to sleep, because I was certain that sleeping Minecraft nightmares, even more powerful than the waking ones, would be waiting for me.

One reassuring aspect of my forty-eight hours in post-operative intensive care was the wraith-like figure that always seemed to be hovering, appearing whenever I was uncomfortable and rearranging me into a better position, where the bed was able to do its job of carefully supporting my body so that the pain released me. I later discovered that a doctor - a woman who managed to be both very tender and amusingly matter-of-fact at the same time - had spent those forty-eight hours being exclusively available to me. She is characterised as ‘mab’ in the poem ‘post operative care’.

After two days, I was moved to a bay on the main ward, where three other guys were already ensconced. The atmosphere in the bay was very positive. Considering that we were all going through a pretty difficult time of our lives (or perhaps because of it) there was a strong feeling of solidarity and a lot of humour. When I read the accounts of Holocaust survivors, political prisoners or trapped coalminers, in the midst of torment, terror and heroism there is always humour. Perhaps humour is the default position of people in critical situations.

One of my bay comrades, Wallace, had suffered an incident at work. I can’t call this an ‘industrial accident’, because as is so often the case there was clearly a significant element of employer negligence in the incident that led to his injuries. He had been horrifically wounded when a forklift truck pinned him against a lorry at one of his workplaces. He was lucky not to have been cut in half and was, understandably, as angry as hell about what had happened to him….but…Wallace’s humour shone through even when he was in pain and fearful of what may yet befall him. And when I was throwing up - probably from an over-use of the morphine-like Patient Controlled Analgesia that I could give myself, albeit in time-and-quantity restricted doses, it was Wallace who called for the nurses, got to his feet and came to my bedside to look after me.

Later, after Wallace had been allowed home, a Polish guy joined our little group. He spoke no English and, I imagined, was having a pretty lonely time with nobody to talk to until his visitors came in the evenings. Using the internet, I managed to learn a few phrases of Polish so we were able to exchange names, ask how each of us was feeling, say good morning and goodnight and, when I was discharged from the ward, wish one another good health. His name was (if I remember correctly) Sebastien and he gave me the loveliest smile when I dumped an unwanted packet of biscuits on him as I wished him well and left the ward. I hope he is over his health problems.
So there I was, in a bay of the main ward with three other guys, thinking about the poems I’d written since being diagnosed with what I called ‘the arse thing’, and it occurred to me that the they might hang together in some sort of song-cycle. Maybe they had some degree of coherence and, whilst I was lying there not trying to write, bits and pieces kept emerging and demanding to be knitted together as poems.

Most of these poems expressed my spontaneous response to what was happening. The first, ‘arseassination’, may seem a little playful but arose from my disbelief at having my self-diagnosis of a rectal tumour confirmed. I really had hoped to be wrong, and that my assessment was simply the paranoia of a hypochondriac, but there I was with proper medical experts telling me I was in trouble and my mind revolted. The next poem in the cycle, ‘black’, is perhaps a counterpoint to that. In any case, I wasn’t consciously writing a song-cycle or a collection of poems but simply jotting down (or, actually, typing into my mobile telephone) whatever came through.

Another poem that I should mention is ‘plastic fantastic drippy dressing day’, which was written sort of on commission from Sarah, a staff nurse in the Plastic Surgery Unit (PSU) of Addenbrooke's Hospital, who said I should write a poem about the PSU, because no one else had ever done it. When I thought back to my first visit there I remembered it was just a few days after being discharged from the ward. Everyone, me included, thought my surgical wound was sufficiently healed for a traditional dressing to suffice but in fact I was soaking with exudate by that evening. Over the weekend I was visited several times a day by the District Nurses, who did their best in a difficult situation to change the dressing. As the poem describes, over a number of weeks of regular visits to the PSU I got everything I could have hoped for.

I already had twenty-three poems and thought I should maybe make it twenty-five. I thought about that for quite a while but the idea became increasingly repellent to me. Twenty-five seemed like a square number, all hard edges and sharp corners (rather like the blocks in that damnable Minecraft game) and I decided not to go near it. I might write one more poem but I would refuse a twenty-fifth, I’d block it, I’d turn off my imagination, I’d refuse to record any element of an emerging twenty-fifth piece. Eventually, after discharge from hospital and as I approached post-operative chemotherapy, I drew on my memory of lying in the grass at a place we called The Scrambles, near Carrville, in County Durham, and produced the twenty-fourth poem, ‘afterword.’ And there it stopped.

So, after I was discharged from hospital and my post-discharge treatment was coming to an end, I decided I’d had quite enough of feeling lousy and shouldn’t suffer alone. As a result I decided I would inflict the short song-cycle I’d come to call ‘cancer songs’ on the tiny world of people who might be prepared to buy it.

I’m grateful to everyone associated with the book, including the wonderful NHS staff who have carried me through what would otherwise have been a pretty hopeless predicament and to whom I dedicate the poems with love.

I must also mention those of European origin - the Polish, Latvian, Ukrainian, Greek, Italian and Spanish people - who made up an important part of the professional group caring for me. Then there were the staff of African origin and those from the Indian sub-continent. Oh, and an Australian. Nor should I omit the Cuban GP who had been part of the medical mission sent from Cuba to set up free clinics in Venezuela and who took my blood when no one else could find a vein.

And, of course, there were many UK citizens in the team.

Love and solidarity to every one of them.

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Cancer Songs

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A Note From The Poet: Lovely As Suspicion

The Contrast had just played an excellent set in support of Mott the Hoople and I found David Reid and the rest of the band slightly drunk and elated in one of the bars of Manchester’s O2 Arena. I had this poem that I didn’t think worked very well but might fare better with music, so I took a deep breath and asked David if he would do me the favour of adding a melody to it. David is a generous man and said he would, but that I’d need to remind him when he sobered up and came down from the post-gig high. In fact, a few days later he contacted me and asked what had happened to the lyric. After a few more days he had produced the song, Not Remotely in Love.

We’d listened to his recording of the song, and I was feeling more than pleased, when David took the reckless step of asking, ‘Have you got anything else?’ I took a deep breath and said, ‘Er, yes, lots actually.’ Within a few weeks there were nine more recorded songs, including Songs and Beer, which can be heard on our first album, Lovely As Suspicion.

This was one of the best songs in the selection but we both knew that, whilst we saw it as simply an honest love song, some people might be uncomfortable about its reference to anal sex. In fact, quite a few people who heard it were totally scandalised and later told us that we simply couldn’t put a song like that on an album. They seemed particularly horrified that what they considered an inappropriate lyric had been set to such a lovely tune.

Actually, thinking about the song since we produced it, I realise it hinges on the dynamic tension between what might be thought of as the sacred and the profane. The first verse combines the spiritual ‘alpha and omega’ with the mundane ‘xbox and sega’, and later ‘I love her heart, I love her soul’ comes along with ‘I love to fuck her tight arsehole.’ There is no attempt here to be shocking or controversial, simply a desire to say something about being utterly in love with someone you want to dissolve into, emotionally, psychologically and physically. I think the essence of deep, romantic love involves an attempt to overcome separateness to the point of extinguishing the individual Self through merging with another person. As the lyric says, ‘I may be trite, I may be course, I may not have a poet’s force,’ but the song is truly about being inspired ‘to love as I have never loved.’

The album does have other lyrics that might be considered ‘hard to swallow’, because they deal with unpleasant things like deliberate self-harm, child abuse and death, but again there’s no attempt to be unpleasant or controversial. We are only making honest observations. In fact, I think the message of the album is positive and optimistic. As Joseph Campbell wrote, ‘Participate joyfully in the sorrows of the world. We cannot cure the world of sorrows, but we can choose to live in joy. (1)’

Since staring our collaboration, David and I have built up a stock of about seventy recorded songs and spoken word pieces. We’re currently working on the second album, which will be me performing some of my poems to a guitar backing from David. It’s already sounding really good.

I still think I’ve got the easy part of the relationship, with me being just a scribbler – a bit like Dr Johnson describing himself, a compiler of dictionaries, as ‘a poor drudge’ – while David does the sophisticated stuff. It’s as if I draw the black and white lines for a colouring book and then David brings everything to life by colouring it in. He is always kind enough to say that he’s driven by the lyric, and that’s where the music comes from, but however you look at it the creative process is very, very exciting.

In terms of the REIDGRAVES project, I think we’ve already moved on quite a bit. We’ve been getting a lot of airplay from stations like TBFM and RaidersFM, based in London, but also from HeemskerkFM, in Holland, and from the inestimable Lord Litter – a real hero of the alternative music scene since the 1980s – through stations in the USA, Germany and elsewhere. We’ve had lots of help with making these connections from Tim Jones, at Stone Premonitions, I first met Tim in the late 1970s, when I was entranced by his band, Neon, and I’ve followed his music ever since. It’s a mark of the man that, having not even spoken to Tim since about 1979, he immediately threw his support behind the album and has been unbelievably encouraging, including giving us access to the contacts he’s built up over more than thirty years. I cannot express how grateful we are for his generosity, or how much I admire Tim and his music.

The DJ’s playing tracks from the album have been enthusiastic, and Overend Watts (a lovely man and founder member of Mott the Hoople) described the album as ‘a stunning piece of work.’ You can hardly hope for better than that.

Then there’s Marc A Price, who provided startlingly creative photography for both the album and my poetry book, Hot strawberries. We also had the good fortune to have great musicians, like Richard Mackman, Thorin Dixon and Kat Moore, providing their talents. And there was Neil Saunders giving us some fine backing vocals, and the wonderfully talented Aimee Reid making one track, Arithmetic, entirely her own.

I think we should really be thinking in terms of The ReidGraves Collective, because we have the direct and indirect involvement of so many talented, generous people.

Ron Graves


(1) The Hero’s Journey (On Living in the World) by Joseph Campbell

A Note About Hot Strawberries

A Note About Hot Strawberries by Ron Graves

My parents told me that after my first day at infants school I returned home and called them to gather in the front room, where I climbed onto a small, raffia-topped stool, spread my arms in what I probably imagined was the dramatic fashion of an actor, and sang:

‘I saw a bird in the top of a tree,
This is the song he was singing to me,
God loves us all in a wonderful way,
Be happy, be happy today.’

I told them this was poetry I’d learned at school and that I would be presenting them with more of it.

Children are natural artists. Their distracted, creative play reveals an apparently innate need to express themselves and in doing so transform the reality around them. Donald Winnicott, the British psychoanalyst who had a bit to say about cultural experience, wrote that, ‘The child creates the world it finds.’ I think this beautifully eloquent statement reveals that the interplay between material reality and the creative human mind is at the heart of things. We may not exist in order to create, but by being creative we exist.

Every form of art has the capacity to change the consciousness of both the artist and the audience.  If you stroll into a pub where a band is playing and you find your foot tapping, a change has begun to take place. Try not tapping that foot. Most people with any rhythm discover that the tapping sneaks back in, quite against their own intention, because something is going on at a neurological and emotional level. In this instance, it probably doesn’t amount to much of a change, but music, poetry, painting and drama have all brought about changes in the consciousness of individuals and even societies.

At the first performance of Stravinski’s The Rights Of Spring, one man was so transported that he beat out the rhythm of the piece on the head off the man sitting in front of him. Other beatings were less benign, when different factions of the audience began fighting even as the performance continued. When Millet’s The Gleaners was exhibited, some ‘art-lovers’ staged protests appalled that he had abandoned classical subjects like nymphs and goddesses in favour of a picture of women engaged in the back-breaking work of stone picking in a field. This was too much, too radical, too dangerous. It’s acknowledgement of the real struggles of real women had revolutionary implications.

Plato was so concerned about the disruptive effects of art – especially poetry – that he proposed all poets should be executed. Amongst their many other crimes, totalitarian dictators always attack and try to control two things: sex and poetry. It seems important, then, that we keep fucking and writing poems.

It is possible to write poetry by sitting down with pen and paper – or at a computer, if you prefer – and working at it. Scour your mind for bits of memory, slivers of information, a curious turn of phrase, or an odd emotional response that you never really understood, and you may weave together poems of grace and beauty that touch the reader and alleviate your own suffering by expelling it into the world of shared experience. Sometimes, though, poetry comes unbidden and you wake up from fitful sleep with irritation that moves around your psyche like an untraceable itch until – at last – it forms into words and you get some relief.

Most of what I offer as poetry falls into the second category.

That isn’t to say I don’t work at it, but most of my conscious work is done in revising the first raw form of a piece. There was a time when, too busy with other distractions, I never did that and the result was almost nothing worth thinking about. Now, I love the process of revision and sometimes – just sometimes – end up with something I tell myself was worth the effort.

This current book of poems, Hot Strawberries, is a fairly eclectic selection and no attempt has been made to fit a theme. On the other hand, the idea that both joy and misery are inevitable in a person’s life permeates things.

The poems come from my reaction to things I’ve experienced, heard about from others, or observed at a distance. They can be either intensely personal or simply an observation, a bit like a snapshot, that I offer for the reader’s response.

I never like to explain poems, because the creative process doesn’t end when I finish a piece. I may be done with the poem – although it may not be done with me – but I’m giving it to the reader or listener and hoping they will continue the creative process. If other minds are willing to engage, it becomes a collective rather than entirely individual effort. And anyway explaining a poem is like explaining a joke: by the time you get it, you’ll have lost it.

The title of the book, Hot Strawberries, comes from the last words of my paternal grandfather and I think the autobiographical poem bearing that title explains itself.

Hot Strawberries is available to order now from